Parts of my childhood are shrouded in a thin veil of mist. Of course there are the big things like school, vacations or birthdays, but many of my day to day memories are vacant.
For example, I never knew that my mother had chosen Desert Rose dishes when she and my dad married. After she died, my dad packed them away. It seems he couldn’t stand all of the memories and yet everything was a reminder.
When I got a little older, he finally showed me the dishes. At first glance I thought how old fashioned they were. I knew I wanted something more modern and less flowery. I recall distinctly the look on his face when I muttered my displeasure. Only now, looking back, do I see the whole story. To my dad, these dishes symbolized my mother and the life they had had. To me, at the time, they were just flowery dishes packed away in the garage.
I never remembered the dishes being used or a meal being prepared. Years would come and go…husbands, moves, children etc, until I finally grew up. Emotional immaturity seems to plague some of us motherless daughters, as we often freeze at the time of our loss. The thawing out of feelings and emotions can take a long time.
My modern dishware changed through the years. I was never satisfied with whatever type or pattern I chose. Nothing was quite right until I saw those Desert Rose dishes again, when my Dad was moving to a retirement home. I wanted those dishes and I knew in my heart I was ready for them. Nothing else would do; nothing else had stood the test of time and still maintained its classic status.
As if the universe was celebrating my maturity too, Auntie Sue called and offered me her set of Desert Rose dishes. Now, I have a large collection that I proudly use everyday. Am I blessed? Yes, beyond measure. Am I grateful? More than I can ever say. I feel like a Desert Rose blooming for the first time. The Desert Rose is slow growing, but it is also beautiful, classic and durable. Amen.