My whole relationship with my mother is through photographs. I don’t remember talking with her or being held by her. I only know the likeness of our features through these black and white photos adhered to the page with black corner holders, neatly placed in an album.
Then, of course, there are the pictures of my brother and me after my mother died. I see the stress on our faces, particularly my Dad. He struggled to make us look nice and well
put together, and no matter how hard he tried, we looked motherless. He would pose us in our Easter clothes or Sunday best and tell us to smile. The outcome is obvious in these Kodak moments as he tried to make us look like our mother would have wanted. Alas, no pasted on smile could hide our broken hearts.
I learned a lot about my mother’s personality and countenance from her high school yearbooks, her college scrapbook, and my parents’ wedding pictures. I saw her as a young lady, vibrant and energetic. I saw her laughing with friends and smiling on her wedding day. I read the endearing remarks from her school chums as they professed everlasting friendship and love. Everything I know about my mother came from those that loved her and from these priceless black and white snapshots.
My impressions of her came through the lens of someone else’s view, but for me, that is enough. I’ll let their love and admiration, their memories be mine as well. When pictures are all you have, it has to be enough.